The summer that was…

Hard. Summer was hard. I’m not one to dwell on negativity, because really, there is just so much of that in the world. But, I’m learning that acknowledging the hard things doesn’t have to be negative. It can be good for the soul. I think we call it processing, don’t we?

This summer was a season where the pressure to have fun was overwhelming. Maybe you can relate. This summer was one where my husband and I were only able to focus on building what was right in front of us. Our work efforts required everything we had. It was time to dig deep and slog through many battles and fun was just not going to be a reality for us no matter how much we “needed” it. And that was hard. If I’m honest, it was pretty stinky to be on the outside looking in. I had a pity party or two. Or three.

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We had to make due with simple pleasures and our summer was probably similar to the summers we had as kids. There was no pressure to keep up with everyone else’s adventures and stuff back in the day. Kids played outside. They had a Popsicle or two. They went to the pool occasionally. And they were happy. The end.

But, this summer I really lost my way in remembering truth. I had to fight for truth. I won. I won because I was able to take my disappointments and refocus them on what really matters. I was able to journal my way through my thoughts and turn them right side up. There is still a twinge of pain lingering over a summer I wouldn’t have chosen, but I recognize those old familiar feelings and speak truth to them a little more quickly these days.

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My kids? They had a fun summer. They played outside. They had a Popsicle or two. They went to the pool occasionally. And they were happy. The end. Actually, our oldest had a blast youth grouping all summer long. So her tank should be extra full.

While I am in many ways in need of a grand do-over, I am thankful that school begins again next Monday. School is the great equalizer and we all suffer together. LOL.

Our work loads won’t be any less, but I feel that I have a better grasp on what I need to do to build a solid foundation for the year ahead. It still requires digging deep and slogging through some things, but as our fortune cookies so wisely put it: Your investments of time now will lead to success later. You will make many changes before settling satisfactorily. <— This, yes this.

Those aren’t “fortunes”, but just some good old common sense with truth that rings through. I needed the reminders that none of this summer was in vain. No matter how stinky it felt at times. I am better for walking the valley. We all are if we look at the valley as a teaching ground rather than something to avoid. Comfort, while good, is not always a friend.

This morning as I was flicking through Instagram I was blessed with another great reminder which simply said: Steady Construction, Not Hasty Assembly. (Thank you Little Bit Funky) So often we want life to be an Ikea flat pack on the road to we are going. Very often, that’s just not how things work. I would love this in a frame to hang because wow, that is exactly how I need to approach this coming year. Steady construction. In all things.

I’m thankful for those that cheered me on the sidelines with those quiet don’t give up calls, and for those even louder ones that jarred me straight back to the construction zone. Oh, how I need that.

I’m praying for a fruitful season ahead, because I need that, too.

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  1. Laurie @ Pride in Photos says:

    Hello friend, I can hear your disappointment loud and clear! I feel your pain of life not going as we would like. I am in the same boat, but for different reasons. But our Lord, hears our groans…and takes it into account…we wait on his mercy. Hugs, Laurie

  2. Hi!
    Take one day at a time, and there is an end of the road ahead. Have faith. Have a great day!
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  3. So sorry the summer wasn’t what you all hoped and imagined. Still looks like you squeaked in some simple summer pleasures.

    Hope the last week is smooth and calm and the start to the year is fantastic!
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  4. yes. I feel what you are saying. Balance, balance, balance….but sometimes I just want to have a lot of fun and the heck with everything else.

  5. Oh my goodness, school begins already? Up here we still have the month of August left. We had a mixture summer – good and disappointing. My second grandbaby went to heaven. It looks like my daughter will be having trouble keeping a baby despite being in the care of a specialist. 🙁

  6. Ahhhh, well – since my kids work through summer I’m guessing they would say this looks pretty good. If it makes you feel any better – I saw most of the neighborhood kids doing exactly what your’s were doing – playing outside & having a pop. I think the expectations we have sometimes exceed what can realistically happen. Will your kids look back & be disappointed – most likely not. But I’m happy to hear you are on a different path emotionally with it all – I think you have found a healthy place. Hugs!!
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  7. Well said. Here’s to a steady and content school year- you are building something beautiful!

  8. I too hope you have a fruitful season. Your comment about school gave me a chuckle:). We start school in a couple of weeks.

  9. “Steady Construction, Not Hasty Assembly.” I like that. That’s how it should be.

    Here’s to a fruitful season ahead for you. I love how you stay grounded and positive.
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  10. How serendipitous – because I believed a big lie the day you posted this. But today three days further, I woke up with how lies constricts and limits, intend on weaving its web with lies-lies-lies till it has killed it’s victim. Because a lie you cannot see truth, and you’ll believe another lie. The web gets tighter, till it has constricted you till it has paralyzed you in movement and sight that there is a way out.
    Am so glad you took time to debunk the lies – it’ can be agonizing, messy, but freeing!.
    Truth empowers, and gives you faith to go beyond you natural ability, and builds your faith. Faith you can do it, and faith you can do more. It builds till you soar like an eagle who has distance between him and ground level. All those obstacles, have become little bumps, easily to circumvent. Soar like the eagle, dear Kim:)
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  11. I am sorry to hear that your summer wasn’t as great as you had hoped. I guess it really is all in the expectations we harbor and for summer ‘it just has to be great and fun’, right? But truthfully it is not always like that. And you are speaking the truth – the quote about construction is a good one. Isn’t there also one that goes something like ‘built in a haste, coming down in a rush’? Might just a be paraphrased from a German one though 🙂

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